Left Behind

Why is it that when most people drift out of our lives, we just assume their lives are fulfilled, and they don't really need to talk to us? I think that because there are always new people coming into our lives, we tend to not think about making time for the old friends that have drifted away. I'm pretty sure that's what happens at church. As far as I know, people who haven't been to church get maybe one courtesy call, and that's it - there are just too many new people to connect with to have time to keep the relationship with the people who have drifted off. I mean, if they've drifted off, they probably don't want to be at the church, anyway - right?

Every once in a while, I bump into an old friend that I haven't seen in years. We talk vaguely about what life is like now, and often make empty promises to stay in touch. I know for myself, I usually wait for them to make the first move - which rarely happens. So, because that's what I'm thinking, I'm sure the other person is thinking the same. Our fears are confirmed: "they really didn't mean what they said." And, we all end up feeling left behind.

So, how do we remedy this situation? What goes around comes around. It has to start with me; but, will I do anything about it? I don't know if I will right now. I go through these seasons of wanting to connect with people that I haven't seen in a while... but, they don't seem to last. But, if I'm not going to pick up the phone, how can I expect others to do just that?
Most people I know suck at staying connected. If someone doesn't call, we tend to get all insulted, when really, it's just as easy for us to call, isn't it?


One thing I do know, that if I'm left behind, I know I'm not missed a whole lot; but, I know I'm not forgotten completely. There always seems to be an open door to reestablish the relationships. If there are any of my old friends reading this that want to hook up, feel free to give me a call... I may be calling you in the next little while, myself.

Cheers!