Not So Hott

Well, I found out why all the girls are asking me if they're the one I was talking about in "When's the right time to move forward?". It's not b/c I'm so hott, after all. They're all freaked out by the idea of my roomies and I adopting a kid ("New Train"). I guess the thought of 4 guys rescuing a child from loneliness isn't so appealing to them - women can be so cold hearted!! ;-)
I think the main reason why they aren't so keen on the idea is that we've found a way around them. As much as guys like the physical stuff, I think our primal urge for progeny wins out. I think deep down, we want to be dads more than we want to be husbands.
I think the idea of raising a child appeals to most of us. I almost received an "indecent proposal" the other week regarding this very topic. After a great conversation w. a good friend of mine, she almost asked me to father a child with her! Now, you think a kid living w. 4 dads is weird? How about growing up w. parents who are totally happy and get along well, but aren't physically attracted to each other - maybe even dating other people? Actually, that doesn't sound so weird... except for the part where the parents like each other.

God, our relationships are so messed up!

I can't wait 'til we uncover more about the idea of cultural interdependence. Right now, everything in our culture revolves around the individual. "You do what's good for you. I'll do what's good for me."
There is a better way - I believe. "We will do what's best for us." And that "us" isn't limited to a select few. Interdependence relies on all of us working together for the collective good.
I know, I know... now you're thinking, "Great! Another left-wing Commie idealist." But, that's not where I'm coming from, at all. I'd say I'm more of a right-wing Responsible Capitalism idealist. I am all for the idea of Free Trade; however, if all we're focused on is ourselves, we end up w. highly skewed social classes.
I do agree w. the rich sharing their wealth w. the poor; however, I'd much rather see the rich sharing their knowledge w. the poor. That's would benefit society much more.
The Robin Hood idea isn't the best b/c not all rich ppl are crooks; in fact, most ppl become wealthy thru hard work and following good values. So, if we just 'rob from the rich and give to the poor', we don't really change anything. The rich just find ways around the tax laws, and the poor stay dependent on hand-outs. However, if we grow the knowledge base, everyone learns how to better their lives, increasing our cultural effectiveness.
It's when we work together building on each other's strengths and compensating for each other's weaknesses, that we truly effect change. This is the premise of interdependence. We still value our individualism, but it is superseded by the "Greater Good"... doing what's best for everyone, and not just what feels good.

Again, if you haven't picked up a copy, check out 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey (I should see about getting some of their ad budget!). It's well worth the investment - growing yourself and our culture.

Maybe this little rant will help show those ladies that I'm not such a wacko (or maybe it'll confirm it even more!?).